When people think of perfectionism, the first thing that comes to mind is often work and achievement. Perfectionism can drive people to achieve great things, but it comes at a cost. Rarely is it possible to achieve absolute perfection, and for a perfectionist who sees themselves in a very black and white manner, anything less than perfect is experienced as a failure. And repeatedly feeling like a failure can take a toll; mental health can suffer (among other things).
Perfectionism impacts many domains of life, including relationships and body image, where it can have similar negative effects. This article discusses perfectionism in more detail, and provides some helpful antidotes.
From the Emotion Machine:
If you want to never be happy or satisfied with your life, one great way to do that is to raise your expectations to an unrealistically high standard that can never possibly be met.
This is the essence of perfectionism. It’s the inability to be happy with something until it is perfect, without any flaws whatsoever. Of course, the problem with this mindset is that perfectionism is often an illusion.
Life rarely works out exactly the way we want, in any domain – whether it’s relationships, work, or goals.
And many times being more happy with your life requires that you let go of these expectations and learn to be more content with how things are, rather than how you picture they should be in an “ideal world.”
Many studies are beginning to show the many ways perfectionism can destroy your happiness.
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